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mariamargarita
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|  | what do i do? im SO confused
« Thread Started on Aug 13, 2006, 5:18pm » | |
ok i had been goin with my ex for a year an a half
wed broken up b4 but couldnt live without each other and got back together thru that he lied about his feelings when we were broken up which confuses me now
ok we broke up about two weeks ago....we had a big fight over nothing and we were arguing alot bcuz i was stressed over my dad leaving for war...he dumped me a few nights b4 he left forreal to go and told me he didnt wanna fight or be hurt....i dont know how i hurt him! we spoke on the phone where we decided to be friends even tho i still care more than anything...we talked for a couple of hours where he when we were done called me my nickname that he made up for me...he hadnt seen me til school started and when it did he wont talk to me or get online.....i dont know what to do he stares at me constantly but wont look me in the eye! the other day i decided to talk to him and he just said oh well i didnt want u to fuss at me for not taking u back...he is telling me this but giving all the opposite signals and never acts as happy as he did with me...(or so everyone says) hes not bubbly anymore and im wondering does this mean he misses me and still cares or does it mean hes through with me......hes also known to deny and lie about things when hes tryin to get someone back for what they did....i am SO CONFUSED and i need someones help and advice
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| | Re: what do i do? im SO confused
« Reply #1 on Aug 13, 2006, 5:23pm » | |
First, please use full sentences and real words. It is very difficult to decipher what you are asking. Thanks.
If this guy is a liar and a game player then you do not need him in your life. You broke up for a reason. Why get back together if nothing has changed? Your feelings of love do not make a relationship work. Communication is necessary and you have none, just an immature guy who is messing with your head.
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| | Re: what do i do? im SO confused
« Reply #2 on Aug 13, 2006, 8:08pm » | |
I have to admit, he was a total jerk when he did those things. But, other than that, he has been totally supportive, and wonderful to me. He never pushed me into anything. He was a wonderful guy to me, and never ever a player to any girl. I know it sounds fake but he is a total gentleman that walks me to the door after a night with him, opens my door until I told him that i could do it for myself, and so attentive. I know he is hurt somehow, but im not quite sure how. I know him. I was always the girl who promised myself I'd never say things like this because I always thought women who did were dumb, but I know something isn't right. He isn't the kind of guy that would be like that. He did it last time because he was so hurt. He cryed over me when I dumped him, and could possibly still be angry about it. We have lots of unsettled issues. All I want to know is....do you think he could just be mad or sad? He's, by the way, a sensitive guy, and can be VERY whimpy. I just don't think hes capable of outside just plain meanness!
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| | Re: what do i do? im SO confused
« Reply #3 on Aug 18, 2006, 5:10pm » | |
If he dumped you, then it's up to him. you cannot control what he does, and you'll humiliate yourself trying.
However great he can be, from what you've said, you didn't have a strong relationship, and neither of you is very good at saying what you feel.
Obsessing about a failed relationship won't take you far; move on. And next time you get a great guy, don't lose him!
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